I want to take a little time to share a really good tip that I picked up from a very dynamic and amazing (and allegedly younger man) quite a while ago – something that I’ve often forgotten and would do well to remember. He was referring particularly to beliefs about picking up women, but it can apply to just about anything.
If there’s a particular belief about yourself that you feel is holding you back, or something that you feel is standing in your way, there’s a very simple question you can ask yourself:
Has there ever been a time when it hasn’t been true?
If the answer is ever no then the belief or the problem is officially bullshit.
For some beliefs it might take a while for you to think about those exceptions. But the great thing is, it doesn’t matter if it’s only happened once out of a hundred times, or a thousand times, or eight billion; it doesn’t even matter how long it’s been proven. If there’s been at least one instance where the belief or problem hasn’t applied, then it’s no longer a fact.
For example, a lot of people (men and women) have called me this ugly word, ugly. These people have had me believe that I’m far from the most attractive person they’ve ever seen, and that you won’t see me in a magazine at any time soon.
When I say that some women will choose male friends based on the way they look, I’m not exaggerating!
But despite the thousands of people who have either suggested it or said it out loud (on and offline), there have been people who have found me attractive on some level. Not nearly as many, but enough people to remember. I’ve been attractive enough for some people for friendship, or looks never mattered in the first place. I’ve even been attractive enough to have admirers, would you believe (although for their physical safety they’ll remain nameless).
You’ll eventually see that what used to be your hangup is actually someone else’s hangup, and you no longer hold on to something that you have no control over. It may still be an issue for some people, but it’s no longer your issue.
Tags: Attractive Person, belief, Exception To The Rule, Exceptions, people